Why do I blog?I've been an avid writer and reader my whole life. With the birth of my second child, Super Boy, I felt compelled to begin writing an ever-evolving love story to each of my babies...To share with them a small portion of the narrative that God has already written for each of their lives. Blogging was my way of not only leaving a lasting legacy of love, but of faith.
So, I began to blog my thoughts. Since my words were written merely for a preservation of memories for my children, I had my blog locked...only invited readers could join in on the unfolding accounts. Eventually, others learned of my chronology and asked to be apart of the journey. And so, my blog readership began to grow.
Obviously, as homeschoolers, homeschooling was a large portion of our daily lives and consequently my blog. Our homeschool happenings propelled more readers to join. As a writer, it was exciting to see so many interested readers, but as a mother whose very personal thoughts towards her children were being documented, I began to feel a little uneasy. I never wanted my children to feel like the "personal" was becoming "public." There were just certain posts that I held too dear to offer to the WORLD.
One day, I was encouraged by a few faithful friends, to make the homeschooling portion of my blog more public. After about six months of prayer, God began to show me that this could be the perfect way to "protect the sacred" in our personal family blog, and that it could also be an opportunity for ministry and influence to other mothers traveling the same journey. I took the leap. And the Unlikely Homeschool was born!
Why the "unlikely" in the Unlikely Homeschool?Although I feel so blessed to be able to "train up my children" every day...to be the first one to witness the passing of monumental spiritual, physical, and educational milestones...there was a time, that the very idea of homeschooling seemed very unlikely.
For the following reasons...
I earned a B.S. in Elementary Education.
For those of you who are also among that camp, you can understand what a huge "no-no" it is to surrender to the idea that a mother's love for, knowledge of, and passion for her children can equip her with the necessary skills to teach them. For an educator to admit to that, basically, makes her many years of study a very moot point. I have, obviously, realized the many fallacies of this highly illogical point of view. I am surrounded by mothers who have used those very elements...love for, knowledge of, and passion for their children...to do an above excellent job in educating the little ones that God has entrusted to them.
My children have a free ride to a local private school.
I often say that I was a teacher "in a former life"...meaning before having children. I taught for several years at a local private school who awards free tuition for the children of its staff members. In addition, it began offering an in-house day care for staff who had infants through preschoolers...free of charge. To man's mere logic, this would seem like the perfect "gig" for any mother...working hours and vacation days that coincided with that of her children's. Free childcare. Excellent education from teachers who shared her same faith. An opportunity to earn a decent salary while also being ever-present in the lives of her children. But, God's ways are not our ways. His logic is sometimes the complete opposite of man's.
My husband was directly opposed to the idea.
Notice the key word in that statement...WAS. The Hubs was, himself, homeschooled for most of his formative years. He began his educational journey where most children do...in the public school. But, due to some early on-set health issues that required him to be educated from home for a short time, he was assigned a few home-tutors. After seeing their son thrive in the home environment, my in-laws considered and finally made the decision to discontinue his involvement with public education and try their hand at a very new notion...homeschooling.
Although, my husband can certainly acknowledge how valuable homeschooling was in the development of his character, as a teen and beyond, he struggled with a sense of "outsider" syndrome. Twenty or so years ago, homeschooling was such an uncharted approach to education, that not very many people even knew it existed. Consequently, there were not very many homeschoolers in his area with which to gain a sense of belonging. He spent many useless years of his life "proving" himself to the WORLD...trying to establish a feeling of validation and "place."
When I approached him with my desire to home educate our, then, only child, Sweetie Pea, his answer was an emphatic "NO!" He had no desire to see her struggle through sin, blame, and rebellion like he did. I did not press the issue any further, but determined to pray. My fervent prayer continued to be that God would either change the calling in my heart, or the firmly established determination in his.
As I was currently, a stay-at-home mom, he agreed to allow me to teach her a few preschool concepts until the day we would have to enroll her in the local kindergarten program. But one day, in a complete act of Providence, he stayed home sick from work. That day found him resting on the couch...in full view of our morning preschool routine. In those brief moments, God began to soften his heart. He saw how much fun Sweetie Pea had learning from home where she got the "teacher's" undivided attention and love. He saw the bond that was forming between teacher and student because of that love that only a mother could have. Since we were currently a part of a preschool play group filled with other homeschooling hopefuls, he saw how the social boundaries of homeschooling had grown by leaps and bounds since his experiences. Most importantly, he saw this as a definite calling in our lives.
He was not ignorant to the knowledge that homeschooling was still not "the norm." And that homeschooling came with a whole laundry list of struggles...one of which was still the "socialization" argument. But, he was finally acknowledging the blessings that God had determined for him...because of Homeschooling. He came to the realization that homeschooling and his lack of social circles was never really the "issue", his heart attitude was. As an adult, he can now see how He had placed friendships within the WORLD as an idol in his life. What he really needed to do was begin to see his God-worth, not his man-worth. He began to finally see this as God's calling...not only in his daughter's life, but in his. I'm happy to report, that his emphatic "NO" has become and even more emphatic "YES!"
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