Eight years ago, in the quietness of room 304, I was handed a small bundle of pink. Nestled together in the wee hours of the morning, we made our introductions. Hers was the raspy cry that only a baby can muster and mine was a mixture of tears and silent prayers of Thanksgiving. With eyes like her Papa, a chin like her momma, and a set of lashes that were all her own, she was my very prayers wrapped in human flesh.
As I pealed back the pastel wrap that engulfed her, our eyes met
for a moment
only a moment
But that was all the time God needed to write His truth upon my heart...the truth that this little six pound gift was more than just "baby girl", as her bassinet placard read. She was a "talent"...a talent that only He could entrust...a talent that I could safeguard for as long as He allowed...a talent that I could multiply for her good and His glory.
And so, with nearly half of her childhood days behind us and tucked away as a "memory", the gravity of that moment...that one brief, eye-meeting moment...comes to mind often and compels me to walk this journey of motherhood with intentional purpose.
I am a pattern.
a blueprint of femininity...for better or worse...for her to follow.
God has woven us together with purpose.
Mine is to "teach what is good"
and hers is to walk along behind.
but only for a short while...until the day she can walk BESIDE.
Scripture teaches in Titus 2:3-5...
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slave to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled." ESV
Although it would be easy for me to trade the "good" for the "good enough", I am acutely aware that it is my job, as her mother, to work my way OUT OF A JOB...to use my home and my few brief years with her as a training ground, a greenhouse, where she can not only learn, but EMBRACE, true Biblical womanhood.
In my efforts to find the "good" for her, I have come upon a few wonderful resources worth sharing. I hold them out to you as an invitation. Join me in multiplying your "talent". Take the challenge given in Titus 2 to ensure that the next generation of wives, mothers, and daughters of the King will know their worth and be equipped for a high calling...a CHARGE to be a keeper of the home.
Practical Homekeeping Skills
- Joanne Fabric Craft Kits- relatively inexpensive craft kits that can often be purchased with 50% off coupons and are a nice introduction to basic sewing, beading, embroidery, and other handcraft skills.
- Minieco Printable Sewing Cards- printable sewing cards to introduce hand sewing skills to preschoolers.
- Kids Sewing Projects- a website filled with downloadable sewing projects listed by age/skill level.
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- Kids Sew- an online vendor that sells reasonably priced kid-friendly patterns.
- Kids Sewing- an online sewing community for kids, their moms, and their grandmas. They sell a handful of tutorial DVDs that focus on beginner sewing projects.
- HEV- subscription based online resource which provides video tutorials of certain handcraft/homemaking skills from a Christian perspective. (Youtube can be a helpful resource for teaching your daughter certain skills that you, yourself, have not mastered. But, it can often be difficult to find a youtube tutorial that is not littered with inappropriate language, music, or advertisements.)
For the past year, my daughter has been assigned to cook our Sunday night dinner. Since we set aside Sunday for rest, we are never overly scheduled allowing for plenty of time to teach her some basic kitchen skills. Here are a few instructional-style books that not only provide easy-to-do recipes, but also helpful "how-to" lessons in cooking.
Uncle Gene's Bread Book for Kids
General Home Ec.
- Training Your Children in Home Economics- a wonderful eBook with great tips on teaching basic Home Ec. skills such as gardening, hospitality, table manners, laundry, cooking, and more. With your purchase, you also receive progress forms, planning sheets, and simple patterns to use for a full Home Ec. curriculum.
- Home Economics for Home Schoolers Level 1- the first of a series of books for teaching young girls basic home keeping skills. It is a curriculum-style approach that graduates skill level as a girl grows.
- The Homeschool Classroom- several posts about teaching both BOYS and GIRLS home keeping skills. The following articles give excellent tips on teaching life skills to children of all ages:
- Homemaking Journal- an ongoing homemaking notebook shared at Average Housewife. This would make for a great on-going mother/daughter project as you prepare her for your home and starting one of her own.
- Keepers of the Home- scouting style club that encourages girls to learn basic elements of Biblical womanhood with the incentive of earning achievement badges. The club handbook covers a multitude of homemaking aspects such as cleaning, cooking, handcrafts, and spiritual growth. Although the point of the club is to participate in a group setting, a mother/daughter can complete the activities and earn badges without joining an actual organized group.
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- Raising Homemakers- a jam packed sight completely dedicated to training up daughters in Biblical womanhood. Guest writers from around the web share practical tips on encouraging purity, training in homemaking skills, and creating a desire for virtuous living. Every Wednesday, Christian mom-bloggers link-up their Titus 2 style posts in hopes of sharing how they are raising their daughters to be HOMEMAKERS.
- Training Our Daughters to be Keepers at Home- a seven year, 601 page course study that includes the following topics: cooking, Godly womanhood, sewing, caring for sick/injured, gardening, child-bearing/breastfeeding, braiding rugs, child development, hospitality, making a house a home, child training, flower arranging, knitting, family finance, crocheting, making greeting cards, embroidery, caring for elderly, raising animals, comfort grieving, cross stitch, family celebrations, basketry, soap making, candle making, and home business.
- Titus 2 Pinterest Board- a relatively new development, but I am dedicated to adding to it as I find quality ideas/articles.
- 10 Days of Character Studies- a whole series of teaching godly character to both BOYS and GIRLS by Erica at Confessions of a Homeschooler. These would make a great addition to a focused time of teaching virtues to your daughter.
- Character Qualities Chart- a downloadable chart provided by the Duggar family listing out Godly character qualities and their operational definitions. This makes for a great reminder of what qualities you should be teaching by example.
- 10 Days of Teaching Values- resources for purity, household chores, instruction in righteousness, service, and leadership from Our Journey Westward.
- Summertime God's Girls Club- a summertime club for young girls and their moms hosted by The Unlikely Homeschool. Each meeting is designed to teach basic hospitality and etiquette skills, a basic handcraft skill, and Godly character in the form of a woman from the Bible.
- The New Christian Charm Course- a complete course designed to teach manners, social etiquette, and femininity.
- Pursuing What is Excellent- great thoughts for encouraging your daughters to choose friends wisely.
- Secret Keeper Girl Kit 2: The Gift of True Friendship- an activity based kit designed for moms/daughters or small groups. Includes "date night" suggestions for you and your daughter as you explore what it means to be a good friend, how to choose the right kind of friends, and where you should find the source of friendship.
- Secret Keeper Girl Kit- the original kit which includes 8 "date night" activities to do with your daughter in order to encourage her to choose a life of purity.
- Secret Keeper Girl- an online resource for tween girls and their moms dedicated to encouraging modesty, sexual purity, and a mother-daughter connection that will equip a young girl to face worldly pressures and influences.
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- Generations of Virtue- a website which provides curriculum, DVDs, small group-style teen studies, and a wonderful age-appropriated booklist for girls (and another for boys) starting as young as three in an effort to equip parents to raise a pure generation.
- The following are my personal favorite living literature picks for teaching both purity and feminine hygiene. I have read many of them with my daughter and have tucked the rest away on a shelf for "someday."
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