tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post1549123979676839692..comments2024-03-17T22:57:42.834-07:00Comments on The Unlikely Homeschool: 10 Thoughts on Raising Boys to be Men Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-90247754797342263192021-03-09T18:50:07.086-08:002021-03-09T18:50:07.086-08:00I'm so glad you found it relevant and helpful....I'm so glad you found it relevant and helpful. Though it was written nearly a decade ago, I still stand behind every word.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-76012880739659697712021-03-09T11:18:51.849-08:002021-03-09T11:18:51.849-08:00This was an amazing article Jamie! I have to appla...This was an amazing article Jamie! I have to applaud you for being willing to say it straight, even if main stream doesn't agree! That is amazing <3 I also wanted to state that there are many of these things that I am teaching both my sons, alongside my husband. It is a blessing to have strong male figures in young men's lives because, as you said, more is caught than taught. Chivalry is not dead and the statement you made about gender neutrality is not the answer. God did create male and female separate, but equal. We need each other, and that is something I teach my sons also! I appreciate your wording for that because I am generally at a loss of how to state my opinion on gender neutrality and the other aspects of the world that are the opposite of what we believe.<br />*Holding a door for a lady does not mean she is less, it is a sign of respect.<br />*The use of real tools teaches how to handle them appropriately and teaches that they are not toys, they are tools and are to be used that way.<br />*'So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.' Genesis 1:27<br /><br />:) :) :)Thank you again so much Jamie! I know that you posted this back in 2013, it is still as relevant today as ever :) :) :)Donnesa McPhersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04665834959608610193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-30109650018969933872015-06-22T14:54:29.683-07:002015-06-22T14:54:29.683-07:00I hope the man my daughter eventually gets married...I hope the man my daughter eventually gets married to has a momma like you raising him right now. (She's only 11 :-)) How beautiful are the plans and designs God made for each gender, and how blessed children are when parents recognize that.Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-85025005917832767352015-02-25T06:24:00.512-08:002015-02-25T06:24:00.512-08:00So glad you enjoyed it!So glad you enjoyed it!Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-85407960666372762552015-02-25T04:12:56.305-08:002015-02-25T04:12:56.305-08:00I absolutely love this article. Thank you so much...I absolutely love this article. Thank you so much for sharing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-66579878250752152632014-06-24T14:52:27.197-07:002014-06-24T14:52:27.197-07:00Rhonda Stoppe has a wonderful book by this title t...Rhonda Stoppe has a wonderful book by this title that I highly recommendAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-38445958084542233682014-03-18T17:00:13.370-07:002014-03-18T17:00:13.370-07:00It sounds like you have built a firm resolve about...It sounds like you have built a firm resolve about how to raise your kids. Good for you for teaching them responsibility early on.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-92072055691369260452014-03-18T13:37:58.177-07:002014-03-18T13:37:58.177-07:00Thank you for your story. I really enjoyed reading...Thank you for your story. I really enjoyed reading it. I too am very disappointed when I read all the experts online. There is a new age fever that I myself don't prefer. There is a natural way to raising children that many people are ignoring based on all the expert advice. When I trust my heart, I raise my kids in much the same way you do. I have to tune out some of the new age advice that goes against what comes naturally. I have friends that believe boys should wear pink and play with dolls. I heard their story about why they thought this was a good idea and I guess, in theory, in kind of made sense, but unfortunately the boys proved to all of this that it was a stupid idea. They walked out into the world confused, and to make a long story short, it caused a lot of trouble in their lives. It's our job to help them learn about the world and dressing a boy in pink means we aren't doing our job. For now, this is not reality. <br />I also like your take on giving them responsibility. Chores and carrying groceries, ect. This is good for their personality. As my kids aged they taught me that they needed this. They started acting disrespectful throwing their clothes around the house and making a big mess and walking away. When I started making them responsible for cleaning up they learned a lot and it made them better little people. They take pride in their work and it also wears out a little excess energy they always have building up. Anyway, just wanted to really thank you for sharing. I appreciate your ideasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-9496788136702224042013-12-21T06:56:51.406-08:002013-12-21T06:56:51.406-08:00I'm so glad it was an encouragement to you, Je...I'm so glad it was an encouragement to you, Jessica! I pray your upcoming delivery goes well and that the transition from one to two little ones goes smoothly.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-15059450324105328782013-12-20T23:04:47.179-08:002013-12-20T23:04:47.179-08:00Love this post! I have a 2 year old son and while ...Love this post! I have a 2 year old son and while I have been trying to do some of this you definitely gave me more I can work on and very much want to!! I realized the other day that not only do I need to teach my son but remind my husband about chivalry, lol. I want to raise my son (and in 3 weeks time or so my daughter...so excited) to be little men and women in Christ!!! Thank you for sharing this...I absolutely love your blog! :-)Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-30858242206495096292013-10-15T11:09:41.445-07:002013-10-15T11:09:41.445-07:00Thank you for sharing this. I'm a mom of one s...Thank you for sharing this. I'm a mom of one son. I feel that your points are valid. God bless you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-9988457061308612732013-09-18T08:36:31.110-07:002013-09-18T08:36:31.110-07:00Thank you for sharing this with us all. It touches...Thank you for sharing this with us all. It touches me, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-727142373161034612013-09-04T19:49:56.573-07:002013-09-04T19:49:56.573-07:00Thank you for that, Rachel! It is true. Our soci...Thank you for that, Rachel! It is true. Our society has shifted a GREAT deal, hasn't it? I pray that my boys can be used to bring TRUTH to light again.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-36208743579014857262013-09-04T09:19:02.627-07:002013-09-04T09:19:02.627-07:00I think it's a testament to how far our societ...I think it's a testament to how far our society has shifted that anyone could even possibly get offended at this post! So very true. I particularly loved the part about leading lightly. I have two boys (16 months and a newborn) and I can already see my 16 month old wanting to be independent and do it himself and give me a "mama, honestly" look. I am encouraged to find a balance between knowing I am truly in authority and letting him leading strongly in his own way. Really loved this!Rachel @ A Mother Far from Homehttp://www.amotherfarfromhome.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-1673134002331673832013-07-25T06:56:54.175-07:002013-07-25T06:56:54.175-07:00While I agree that everyone should develop strong ...While I agree that everyone should develop strong leadership skills and as Scripture says, "be ready to answer to every man," I also think it is Biblical that the Husband maintain the role as head of the home...leader. (Eph. 5:23, 1 Timothy 2:11-15 and many more) That is not a position that many men walk into well. I want to start early with my boys so that they can transition to that God-given responsibility well.<br /><br />I completely agree about the boy/girl toys. My daughter loves Legos, building forts, playing cars, etc. and while most of my boys don't tend to choose "girl" toys to play with, they all have enjoyed playing Littlest Pet Shop and such WITH their sister. Unfortunately, the article I was referring to as well as a few others I have read suggested that readers INSIST that their boys play with "girl" toys to break the gender stigma of dolls, toy houses, etc. I don't feel it is necessary to FORCE anything. My boys are boys and just naturally prefer playing with "boy" toys. And that's fine by me. <br /><br />Thanks so much for your thoughts. I always welcome conversation, even if it differs from what I believe.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-40141337883340942192013-07-25T00:44:03.343-07:002013-07-25T00:44:03.343-07:00I especially like the encouraging bold faith (so s...I especially like the encouraging bold faith (so so important), risk taking, and initiative portions. There are many days that I have to watch out of the corner of my eye when we're at the playground and they're climbing higher than I can reach! I have also gotten that "Where is your mother look?" when I'm not hovering. We also let them wrestle (I know many who don't), but the rules are: all parties must want to wrestle and you must respect when the other says they don't want to wrestle anymore...<br /><br />But, why wait until 18 months to encourage a close relationship with Dad? We have done that from day 1 with both our children and it has been wonderful. We were very lucky that my husband was able to take time off from work when both of our children were born. Other than breastfeeding, he handled most of the responsibilities in those early days- diaper changes, bath time, meal preparation etc. Bath time is still Daddy time... As primary caregiver/SAHM, I am still #1 in many ways (especially the middle of the night), but both my son and daughter have very close relationships with my husband and it's wonderful! <br /><br />I was also somewhat discouraged with the "I lead lightly" paragraph. First, no one likes to be henpecked- no one! And leading lightly is a skill everyone should learn. While you sometimes need to lead with your words, leading by example is certainly more powerful and lasting. But there is no reason that women cannot be strong leaders or that boys/men cannot follow. I'm always so discouraged when people think their are Biblical reasons that women cannot be leaders or can only lead small children. I'm not sure if this is your view or not, but that is the impression that I get from that paragraph. Leadership should be encouraged in everyone. Their natural leadership level will come through...<br /><br />I would never force or enforce anything "gender neutral", but I certainly don't discourage my 4 year old son when he is interested in anything considered "girl". It's a rare day he hears "That's just for girls.". And my almost 2 year old daughter loves her matchbox cars and trains. I think it's sad that society gets caught up in what's for boys and girls. I prefer to just encourage their natural curiosity and interests. More often than not, they choose what is considered normal for boys or for girls. But, I never want either of them to think "I can't be interested in that because it's only for boys or girls." Society will do that enough- they don't need to hear it from me. <br /><br />Keep on raising those boys to be men- its so important!Sarah Flaglernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-53544984306020454502013-07-24T17:33:14.860-07:002013-07-24T17:33:14.860-07:00Thanks, Ticia. You are always so encouraging.Thanks, Ticia. You are always so encouraging.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-54094983062257668092013-07-24T17:32:41.486-07:002013-07-24T17:32:41.486-07:00Wow, Lizzie. I think it's great that you are ...Wow, Lizzie. I think it's great that you are beginning to gather ideas now. Kuddos to your mom for setting such a great example for you. Thanks for stopping.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-12405528690188760292013-07-24T12:36:20.825-07:002013-07-24T12:36:20.825-07:00I knew I was going to love this post when I first ...I knew I was going to love this post when I first saw your G+ post, and I've been saving it until I got home to be able to read it properly. Woo hoo!Ticiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17970101432834731044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-88000464035792680472013-07-23T12:36:49.918-07:002013-07-23T12:36:49.918-07:00This is brilliant! I am not a mother (I'm 15),...This is brilliant! I am not a mother (I'm 15), but I hope I someday will be. My mom does the same thing with my brothers as you do with your boys. I especially enjoyed the part about chivalry, and I'm really glad you're encouraging it! God Bless you and your family.Lizzienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-23169048574606831502013-07-23T06:25:14.464-07:002013-07-23T06:25:14.464-07:00Thanks for sharing, Eileen.
Nope, we sure can&#...Thanks for sharing, Eileen. <br /><br />Nope, we sure can't.Jamie Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210544168493409813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-23948482691920983012013-07-23T05:47:37.455-07:002013-07-23T05:47:37.455-07:00Love this!!! Most of these lists I see written by...Love this!!! Most of these lists I see written by Christians are centered around guns. It's refreshing to see a list like yours. I completely agree. These are the same things we do with our 2 boys, who are 4 and almost 6.Crystal @ Serving Joyfullyhttp://www.servingjoyfully.com/aboutnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-36359161822616803152013-07-22T21:01:53.079-07:002013-07-22T21:01:53.079-07:00I have a five year old son, and raising him to be ...I have a five year old son, and raising him to be a godly young man who will one day be a husband and father is something I constantly think about. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I absolutely enjoyed reading this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-80262301715061400842013-07-22T19:03:00.551-07:002013-07-22T19:03:00.551-07:00This is right on the money!! I have to young men ...This is right on the money!! I have to young men and these points you've made in your post are some of the most important areas to include on raising boys to become Godly men. I will repost it to my twitter and facebook as you have a wonderful way in expressing these realities. We can't fall for the lies of articles like this one.Eileen Marie Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10665629438560353597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628767515693863152.post-60555693706139586342013-07-22T18:44:40.189-07:002013-07-22T18:44:40.189-07:00Love this! I have one 2-year-old son and there'...Love this! I have one 2-year-old son and there's not one point in this that I disagreed with! KUDOS and God Bless!Tiffanynoreply@blogger.com